I’m known amongst my kids’ friends as the “Strict Mom,” a title I am not altogether unhappy to hold. (The actual title is probably closer to “Mean Mom”, which is also fine by me, because my kids fear of me is just being reinforced by the opinions of their friends.) I have no problem whatsoever saying “No.” to my kiddos and meaning it with finality. My kids also recognize the tone with which I use this particular “No.” and rarely ever try and push me to change my mind once I’ve used it. That being said, I have GREAT kids who are very well behaved, but they ARE kids and they fight amongst each other. A lot.
And that gives me a headache.
Which I don’t like. I also don’t like yelling at them for it, even tho that is my instinct. (Grew up in a family of yellers. I come by it honestly.) And a bit of backstory…I promise this ties in and there is a point…I homeschooled my kids for 4 1/2 years. This past August, that all changed. They went back to public school. And now they are home again for the summer. Soooo…now I need a way to keep them from fighting too much while we count the days to the next school year.
Enter The Mom Jar.
I’m sure you have all seen those ideas out there for “Boredom Busters” jars. Cute jars decorated and filled with slips of paper with an activity on them. There are rules that go along with them depending on the individual family.
Here are mine, as told to my children: 1. If you pull a slip, you MUST complete the task, for at least a half an hour, before pulling another one or complaining again or there will be a loss of privileges you DO like. 2. If you fight with a sibling and cannot settle things amongst yourselves within 10 minutes, pull a slip and do the task listed, WITH the sibling(s) involved in the argument. (You only get three slips a day for this one, or you are grounded.) And be quiet. 3. If you say “I’m bored!” or “There’s nothing to do!”, pull a slip. And be quiet. 4. If you complain about having to do a chore, take a slip, complete the chore you were complaining about, then complete the task on the slip. And be quiet. 5. If Mom says to take one, take one. And be quiet.
Here’s our starting list of things in the jar: (You will note lots of fun stuff, and some stuff that is not so fun. Hopefully the threat of those will keep them from turning to the jar too often.)
Play in the hose/sprinkler
Make a lemonade stand
Do a load of laundry from start to finish
Unload/load the dishwasher
Take the dogs for a walk
Clean out the refrigerator
Pull weeds
Make cupcakes
Make a batch of cookies
Go swimming
Go to the beach
Read a book (turn the TV off!)
Go to the park
Water the plants
Have some family time
Play a board game
Go shoot some baskets
Play baseball in the backyard
Plan a family night
Do a scavenger hunt
Do some schoolwork
Start a journal
Draw some pictures
Go outside and play!
Have an art show
Write a letter to a grandparent
Write a letter to your friends
Play hopscotch
Play with sidewalk chalk
Look at a photo album
Exercise
Do yoga
Make an obstacle course
Make an indoor fort (using the couch, table, chairs and blankets)
Play a video game
Ride your bike
Play dress up
Go take some pictures
Help plan dinner
Have a picnic
Watch a movie with popcorn
Color some coloring pages
Vacuum
Take out the trash
Clean your room
Organize your toys
Clean the toilets
Clean the windows
Go for a walk
Take a nap
Sweep the floor
Sweep the driveway
Sweep the front walk
Wash and clean out the car
Build with blocks
Build with Legos
Make a treasure map (and hide “treasure”…give the map to someone else to find it!)
Make homemade play dough
Do a jigsaw puzzle
Build a dollhouse out of recycled materials and furnish it too
Learn some origami
Make paper airplanes and have a flying contest
Go to the library
Help Mom with one of her projects
Learn to juggle
Make a collage
Learn to knit
Learn to embroider
Mend things in the mending pile
Straighten up the living room
Straighten up the kitchen
Straighten up the family room
Straighten up the bathrooms
Straighten up the dining room
Clean the back porch
Call and chat with a friend
Go thru your books and pull out some to donate
Go thru your clothes and pull out some to donate
Create a new look with some old clothes
Listen to a cd of your parents (the whole thing!) and tell them what you think
Learn the words to one of your parents favorite songs
Make a music video for one of your favorite songs
Dust the bookshelves
Poop patrol the backyard
Make puppets and put on a puppet show for your other siblings
Play restaurant
Play store
Make a track for Hot Wheels using the entire living room floor
Play a round of American Idol on Expert
Make up your own card game and teach someone how to play
Teach Quinlan how to multiply
Learn how to say basic things in a foreign language (Pretend you are stuck in a country for a week. What would you need to know how to say?)
Make a fairy/gnome house
Pick a destination and make a travel brochure to convince your parents to take you there
Design, contruct and play your own musical instrument out of recyclables
Plan a Backyard Olympics Day
Teach Brody or Missy a new trick. (One that won’t get you or the dog in trouble.)
Make bread from scratch
Make a batch muffins and put them in the freezer for busy mornings
Read a book of Mom’s choosing. Out loud. To everyone.
Help Mom sort the photos and put them in albums
Make a Christmas List
Make a Christmas present for someone
Make shadow puppets
Make sun prints
Make leaf print cards
Make a stencil for a t-shirt
Play with the Magic Window
Make all the beds in the house
Make a dog toy
Give the dogs a bath
Lost and Found the house
Learn a magic trick
Go thru your toys and pick out some to donate
Spin in circles in the yard
Make smoothies for everyone
Create your own comic book
Pick a part of the yard that will be yours alone and decorate it
Dust all the baseboards in one room
Pick up all the trash outside
Pick up all the fallen branches and sticks in the yard
I’ll add more as I think of them, but for now, they are printed out, cut into strips and living in a vintage jar in the living room. I’ll let you know if it works. And if I keep my sanity.